UNDERSTANDING ANGER (spaghetti english translation)

Most of our experiences, if not all, pass throughout emotional states, whether we are aware of it or not. These emotional states are conveyed through the body, activated by the biological chemistry that moves the body towards a state rather than another.
Unfortunately, since it’s so basic, our schools pay very little awareness to the recognition and development of a greater understanding of emotional states and this has meant that as adults, there is a lot of confusion about how we can manage our thoughts and acts in a unite direction.
I am still amazed when I see someone with resentment, irritation, envy, jealousy, grumpiness, rumbling, frustration, hostility, ferocity, bitterness, oppression, outrageous, disgust, revulsion, disgust, loathing, revulsion, disdain , contempt, so upset, punctilious, harassing, in a tone of revenge, with tones unwelcome, repulsion, with repugnance, that those people does not realize that the basic emotional state is ANGER.
Sometimes it’s so absurd that I even laugh, when someone said to love the person to whom it is addressed its anger.

ANGER LOOK

Behaviors that are in complete opposition to the objectives that the person believes have.

Watch this video of Chaplin, from minute 3.00 he starts angrily but most of his words are incongruent with his emotional state.

The physical sensation of the basic emotion of the attitudes listed above, are more recognizable with not so hard work.

Anger Physiology includes: increased blood pressure, narrowing cable auditory disturbance, increase in the volume of the voice and possible stammering, twitching widespread, channeled energy in the arms and legs, sense of boiling, neck tension, need to get rid of this excess energy, short breath, flushing, jaw tension, decreased salivation, visceral tension, increased sweating, chest tightness, palpitations, burning eyes and many other effects.

The intensity of these states is variable, then in some cases, the most obvious also from the outside look, will be of very high intensity, but most of our emotional states of anger is based on a lower intensity.

The more we listen our physical states, consequently we will be more aware to our emotional states and eventually (because some emotions arise without a cognitive aspect), to more or less rational thoughts that have brought us to that.

Basically, all these reactions are based on a feeling, more or less conscious, of invasion. An invasion of our values, ideas or a physical body.

In the brain, neurologically, we activate the catecholamine’s which are chemical compounds released in stressful situations (physical or psychological), particularly epinephrine and norepinephrine, neurotransmitters mainly responsible for this stimulation of the sympathetic system and the physical effects listed above.

Beyond the medical complexity, the ability to adjust our psychophysically system is possible by listening somatic reaction and applying what is called in medical research “Root Cause Analysis”, but here we will look at it from a psychological point of view.

ROOT CAUSE ANALYSIS EMOTIONAL

Practically, from a certain effect on the body, we try to identify the factors that have determined it by preventing the recurrence of adverse effects. Why? What are the factors that led to that attitude, and by identifying the causal factors related to a particular event and from the deep factors, those who have brought us to react like this to that event, recognizing the mental chain process. This helps to dissolve it.

Understand the causes of emotional states through the reverse process of root cause analysis.
Sometimes anger is a right reaction, but most of the time it’s not. It’s a defense mechanisms that we have sometimes heard from the people who took care of us as children and often are not even conscious (Introjection and Projection) and others are our wrong beliefs that we decide during our period of education or those of our communities, or that decisions we made and who have settled our mental hierarchy of actions to a certain events.
The “Root Cause Analysis” allow us the restoration of our mental hierarchy based on what we believe is right now, based on our present knowledge.

Up to 26 years, I didn’t understand anything about it.

We grow up in a society where certain inconsistencies were normal and where it was normal to believe that jealousy its part of love…

jealousy
Understanding anger from a somatic point of view is the first step to understand how every time we are entering in that modality, physical experiences such as those listed.
Listening the physical sensations helps us to recognize whether we feel good or not, if the relation that we have feed us or not, if what we’re doing leads us to be happiness states of mind.
The mind lie and we already know that. Recognize the light somatic effects helps us to go deeper than what we feel rather than rely, as often happens, in what we think. The work of the “Root Cause Analysis” that starts from the somatic effect that is obvious helps us not to make mistakes.

More we get into this world of physical sensations, more we realize how people are suffering like us, than we are not alone, that the experience, although for different reasons, are similar.
Abiding in a states of joy, love, generosity allows us to feel so rich and have compassion for those around us, because when love rise, is abundant, overflowing, and we can give it to those who are victims of these emotional states of anger, that are not strong people as we often believed.
I would like to quote one of my teachers, Ajhan Sumedho, an American Buddhist monk, with whom I lived for two months in a place outside of the monasteries.
“Devotion comes from the heart, not by reason. You cannot lead you to feel love or devotion just because you like the idea. It’s when you are not attached, when your heart is open, receptive and free, that you begin to experience what is the pure love.”

We need to start giving more attention to the acts of compassion that are around us every day, starting to appreciate them, to give it value, because we often look at it with anger, or indifference, even if we do not really think about it.

anger_anxiety_care_compassion HRV

Giving value to compassion allows it to emerge, to manifest within us, compassion for our weaknesses and those of others that are … Just like ours.

Let’s start with those around us, every day, at home, at work, on the subway…

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